Goodbye for now...

[roachman34]

    Well, I guess this is a goodbye message, I am a self-destructive dumbass who apparently can't be bothered keep his academic life together and has 3 D's and as such I will be leaving for a while... And life has been sucking for me it feels like my mom hates me, my sister hates me (No change there that's pretty normal), and soon my dad will probably end up pissed at me as well and on top of that I hate myself because I'm a failure, who as mentioned above is a self-destructive dumbass who apparently can't be bothered to keep his academic life together so that hits the self-esteem pretty hard anyways, goodbye see you whenever.

[David]

Wow. Dude. Ease up on the hate. So you got a couple Ds. Focus on schoolwork, Put some effort into the class and make sure your asking pertinent questions. Don't give the excuse that your a dumbass. The fact you see the issue shows you clearly have intelligence on your side.

As for people hating you, Have you considered talking to them, and to work with them to solve whatever issue may be happening? It's a good place to start and does wonders for building a firmer and more stable relationship.

So, In essence. Stop beating yourself up. Focus on your strengths, Reach out, Communicate with people and work together to come up with a solution that will help fix your dilemma. Leaving a poor me pity me message in a forum is not going to help you out. Sorry if I come across as blunt, But its honest. And you need that.

*drops mic, Walks away*

[Llau]

roachman34 , no one here doesn't think you're a self-destructive dumbass and you're not a failure, and I agree with Dave there. Talk to your family members, find out what's wrong, and work things out with them. That's the most important thing you can do, and then focus on the classes you're having trouble with. Ask the teachers for help, and see about getting yourself a tutor, study more, and take notes.

[Faclan]

Its a rough patch Roach but we believe, support, and want you to succeed. A D is rough but its not the end of the time to improve and there will always be time to work on it. As Dave said you admitting that its a problem and not just blaming the teachers is good. You can improve and all of us will be here when you return to congratulate you <3

[Cabel]

I certainly don't think of you as a "dumbass" or "self-destructive", Roachman. I think of you as being creative, as fun to talk with and an all around friend.

Dave's right. It may seem like it's all coming down on you, that things are just getting worse, but take a deep breath and relax. Pace yourself. I know it's easier said than done.

[Guardian Cat of Yappa's]

Feeling sorry for yourself never changes anything, ask everyone around, when I first joined the site I was a good for nothing brat that wanted everyone to be sorry for me cause of shit that had gone down IRL. I didn't achieve anything till I stopped feeling sorry for myself, put a boot square up my rectum and got to work. You already passed the first hurdle which is acknowledging that you do need help in those areas, the next step is pursuing said help and staying dedicated in improving said things.

[SPARTAN-A120]

Hey man, don't beat yourself up. There are times when shit happens and it might take some time to recover. Now, the amount of time depends on 2 factors: 1) Your determination to commit. 2) The determination to improve and be better.

1. Set goals and tasks and commit yourself to get them done. 2. Met those goals and tasks? Set high standards for them. Do not procrastinate. It's a matter of business before pleasure so let the pleasure (whether it's video games, hanging out with friends, etc...) be your motivations to finish your work. Restrain yourself and get the assignments done. Outline, plan, then execute. Take breaks in between assignments or take scheduled breaks during assignments. Find an isolated location where you can focus.

You are not the only one who had suffered in school and you certainly won't be the last (cliche sentence, but it's the truth).

In the case of family, talk to each other as David said. Family is the backbone of your life and you must cherish every moment that you have. They don't really hate you. Instead, if they do actually hate you, be the bigger person and do better. Use their hate to motivate yourself to prove them wrong.

Real life priorities always override any other priority like posting Yappas or completing a character creation. Don't let us be the distraction. On the other hand, Yappas have a diverse member base with staff and guardians who may not necessarily be guidance counselors or wise old people, but if there's anyway we can help, we would do so.

[Seraph]

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Gonna jump on the bandwagon here but yeah, as the others have all said, don't let shit get you down. Especially not something like grades. (not to sound passive of the issue but I was a C-D student, and when people go like "I only got a D!!" I'm like "Welp.")

Focusing on self-hate like that leads to a very self-destructive nature more-so than what you've got now. You start by hating yourself, and then that makes you paranoid and thinking other people hate you, and then you might decide to hate everyone in return and shit just goes down hill from there. Trust me, been there, got the T-shirt. Or you just go into a self-completing cycle of hating yourself and stagnating everything.

Just do what the others have said, chill, focus, and ask people for help. You're never alone, even we'll help you should you ask for it, and with an attitude that focuses on those three aspects you'll achieve. Calling yourself a "self-destructive dumbass" just makes you self-destructive when you have the potential not to be.

Lay up on hating yourself, and keep your eyes forward and your fists swinging. You'll get through it eventually, you just need to get back up whenever it knocks you down.

[David]

As you can see Roach. We all have had our times where we've been in the shit so deep we didn't know if we could dig ourselves out. But we have and will continue to do so.

I realize my words may have been a bit sharper than they should have been but, I stand by them. The only person that can change the course of your life is you. So its really down to the choices you make.

You can choose to ignore them, Choose to change them or choose to allow fate to make the decision, But ultimately, Its you that does it. Life doesn't have a magical "Fix" for issues that come up. All we have is our past experiences and our wisdom to see us to the end of our journey.

So whats it going to be? Keep berating yourself, and risk becoming the "Self-Destructive dumbass" you described? Or are you going to take life by the horns, and take a chance on improving yourself? Your choice. Don't let fear of the unknown guide you. Do it, as our resident Seraph posted. Even if you screw up, You still learned something. As long as you learn, You haven't failed.

Now. Go. Get your life on track and don't look back.

[Bippwatt]

I'm gonna jump on this too, but I'm gonna put a new piece of wisdom in here.

And that wisdom is this. Words have power. A lot of power. Spoken, they can make or break a person. Written, they have even more effect, for it is more permanent. So when you write that you are a "self-destructive dumbass" or a "failure", you are making that a reality. Those words are poison to your future self, to your dreams and aspirations.

So, try saying this instead.

"I am not a failure. I have merely failed. I will fail again, but it will not make me a failure. It will build me into who I need to be."

"I am not a self-destructive dumbass. I'm simply having a hard time. I will try harder, stick to my guns, buckle down and I will succeed no matter what."

And most importantly.
"I will persevere through all that life has to throw at me."

Or as A120's image put it: Tell Life it hits like a b*tch.

And just as a parting gift, I'm gonna give you this graphic:

This is very true. It's not do-or-die, man. It's do-and-do-again. Just go for it. Try everything.

*drops mic...and then walks off to practice what he preaches.*

[Guardian Cat of Yappa's]

^ that diagram is very true